Something I never ever thought I would say to my son. We had an IEP meeting yesterday with the gifted teacher at my son’s school. She determined he was eligible for the gifted program. I had no idea what a smartie pants my son was. 🙂 She fussed at him for taking too easy classes and proceeded to tell him what classes he needed to take for his last 2 years in high school. All advanced honors or AP (college level) courses. He wants to go to an Ivy league school that is close to home. After we had this meeting I came home and talked with my dh at great lengths.
I always had to work and go to college. There was no way around it. I don’t regret doing it either. But my son wants into an Ivy League school. One that I attended for one semester trying to get my Masters (my brother died and then my dad ended up in the hospital for 7 months so I had to drop out). This is the school he wants to go to. It is so freaking hard. It’s doable but it’s not an easy college.
We do not have extra money lying around to pay for him to go to college either. After we thought about his educational path he wants to take we decided he would probably, if he’s lucky, make $3000/year working at a part time job. We need him to get a scholarship worth over $23000/year. I would rather him work so hard at keeping his grades up over the 3.8 he has now so that he can get a full scholarship to a good college. So he was told rather unexpectedly yesterday that he can work during the summer and occasionally if someone needs a lawn mowed, garage cleaned out, etc on a Saturday but he can not get a job that takes away from his studies. He is to spend that extra 10-15 hours a week studying and hopefully if we are lucky enough he will get a full scholarship to a good school.
Please understand I’m not knocking any college. I went to a state college and got a good education. But I want my son to go where he wants to go. So I’m going to encourage him and support whatever decision he makes. I only hope we are able to get him a scholarship so he can attend the local Ivy League school. I’d love for him to go there too. I’m not going to lie. It’s an amazing school. Isn’t it funny I always assumed he would work and go to school like I did? I want what he wants. I want to support him. I hope I’m not making a mistake! I also want him to have a good work ethic. We shall see. Hopefully we can manage to get him a summer job and it won’t interfere with school and yet will let him make some money! The things we don’t expect to say to our children make life interesting!